My Relationship With Food
Stop the Spiralling.
By: Dr. Aaron Wenzel, MD
The struggle is real.
You know the one…
It’s the constant struggle you face every day with your weight. You’ve tried everything. You’ve been “dieting” forever.
Sometimes you win, but your success is short lived — the pounds eventually creep back on.
You’re stuck in the up and down weight cycle, and frankly, it sucks.
Why is it that you’re great at everything else in your life?
Your job. Your kids. Your relationships. No problems there — at least none that you believe deep down have any real control over you…
How come gaining victory over your weight continues to elude you?
The truth is, all you want are results!
How do you win with a past that’s been littered with failures?
I mean, we’re all just products of our past, right? That’s what we’ve been told since we were kids — that, “your past predicts your future”.
I’ve always found it tragically ironic that although we live in a therapy culture, most people walk around completely bound by the very things that they are getting therapy for…
Not that there is anything inherently wrong with getting therapy — that’s not my point. My point is that therapy without actually gaining breakthrough is a waste of time! You could spend a lifetime in and out of therapy, but at the end of the day, what you really need is BREAKTHROUGH!
But achieving breakthrough takes a long time, doesn’t it?
Let me explain…
Thinking that change HAS to take a long time is really rooted in the doctrine of therapy. What takes time is becoming “ready” for change.
Change takes place in a moment!
Think about it…
Have you ever known someone who smoked for years and years and then one day said, “that’s it, no more. never again. I will never smoke again!”?
Of course, we all have. That person may even be you!
How did they change? Did it take them a long time to actually make the change? Heck no! The change was made in a moment, but they probably took a long time thinking about making a change — and that’s where everybody gets messed up!
Thinking about change is NOT the same as making a change.
So the question then becomes, how do we become better at deciding to make a change?
This is a fantastic question, and getting this answer correct will absolutely fuel you towards the massive breakthrough that you need in your life!
So, you want to know the secret to overcoming a past that’s filled will failures at weight loss?
Well, it isn’t going to be found in the gym or in the next diet you go on.
The first step to any real, life-changing breakthrough is mastering your own psychology.
I totally get why this is such a hang up because remember, we have been told our whole lives that our future is bound and determined for us as a direct consequence of our past — in other words, “our pasts predict our future”.
I’m here to tell you that It’s just not true — unless of course, we let it!
The secret is — your long-term weight loss success lies in FIRST understanding YOU!
It’s all about moving past focusing on what you need to do and digging for the deeper meanings of our actions — it’s all about discovering why you need to do what you need to do!
What are your reasons?
Reasons give our decisions power. The more powerful your reasons are, the more powerful the decision.
The more powerful your reasons, the easier it is decide to change right NOW.
Breakthrough then becomes a decision for you.
And like our muscles, the more you exercise this decision making muscle, the stronger that muscle becomes.
Start with smaller, but still important decisions that you’ve been putting off. Decide to make a change. Come up with as many reasons as you can and get connected with those reasons.
You can create change now – just decide!
I’m hear to tell you that the strangleholds of in your life — whether that’s your health, your business or career, your marriage, your children, or your faith — are 80% psychology and 20% technique…
Finding the right technique or strategy alone will NOT lead to the breakthrough that you desire.
It simply can’t.
It’s not powerful enough.
We only make time in our lives for the things that we make musts…
As humans, we need much more than knowledge of the things we should change in our lives!
We need so much more than shoulds…
We have to make them musts!!
So, this breakthrough in weight, is it a must for you?
Then you have to come up with your compelling reasons why it’s a must, FIRST!
Maybe your diabetes is spiralling out of control.
Maybe your relationships are suffering.
Maybe this is a matter of life or death.
Find your reasons, find your breakthrough.
Your decision to make.
In the meantime…
I’ve created a FREE TOOL for you that I think you’ll love!
And it’s totally FREE!
In it, I’ll walk you through a super valuable exercise that will:
- Help you identify toxic patterns in your life.
- Teach you about the 20% rule when it comes to breakthrough.
- Uncover the power of thinking about your thinking.
- Show you the power of your feelings.
- And so much more!
Be on the lookout for my next post on My Relationship With Food.
In it, I’ll be doing a deep dive into the #1 reason that’s holding you back from making your weight loss journey a must…
Our next post will be all about FEAR.
Till then, take back the control in your life that you so desperately deserve by deciding to make your health a must!
All my best — Dr Wenzel, MD